Monday, November 3, 2008

Friends = passive?

My roommates and I had a halloween party at our apartment on Friday, it was so much fun!

I then woke up on Saturday with a nasty cold and am still recovering. But I have amazing roommates and friends who are gracious and have been taking great care of me.

All of this leads me to ponder the thought: Is being a friend a passive role or an active one? I see the way that relationships grow and it is usually when two people are actively involved in the other's life. So a few thoughts on the subject are, who are the friends in my life? Am I being enough of a friend to them? Have any changed recently to a lesser status? Why is this? Is it physical distance? Or something else that grows between us and keeps us from feeling that charity and love for each other. I hope I will be able to find those opportunities to serve my friends and continue to build those binds instead of neglecting them and allowing them to become brittle and eventually fall to dust.


Herlinda said...

this is a very interesting post. These are thoughts that i have had aswell, but you seem to be able to express them in a much clearer way. i appriciate that. Being a friend and having a friend is a univerial thing. everyone understands that, yet there can be some confustion aswell. I hope you feel like i am a friend you can spend time with and talk to. You are for me and i thank you dearly for that.

Olivia said...

Either way, I hope you know I love you and consider you one of my closest friends. I shudder to think of next semester ...


Fun fact: You're cute. I love that picture ... whoever took it did a quite a good job.

monica said...

Friends...friendship with others, not yourself.
So, take care of you, you are a friend to yourself; take care of others, you are a friend to them; reciprocity of friendly expression=a gift!
But you must take care of yourself to be viewed as someone who cares about themselves and can then makes time to reach out to others. HA, bit sometimes it is a friend that helps us take care of our self!
(Does this mean I'm published?!) ;)